The spiritual enemy of believers methodically endeavors to stack so much on us we reach a dangerous moment—the pressure to take matters into our own hands. There is always the “last straw” on that poor camel’s back. In these moments, we become rather irrational and our minds race to devise a plan to “deal” with it all. Handling difficult situations is God’s specialty and we must press in for sufficient grace (2 Cor. 12:9).
The enemy is behind these plans that have the potential to ruin our testimony and hinder God’s blessing over our lives. We cannot serve two masters (Mat 6:24). Therefore, in those moments, we need to de-escalate what is happening in us and around us and seek the Lord’s intervening peace. God always makes a way of escape from these compromising places, so we must identify what the enemy of our souls is trying to do, momentarily pause to receive wisdom, and move forward in Truth and power (1 Cor. 10:13).
In our passage today, we learn a lesson from three people: 1) David, the future king of Israel who has been running from Saul, 2) Nabal, a wealthy, crude, and mean sheep owner, and 3) Abigail, Nabal’s gracious wife who knows her husband’s flesh is wrong. David and his mighty men [approx. 600] have been hired to protect Nabal’s sheep from thieves and wild animals, but it is now shearing time (1 Sam. 23:13; 25:15-16). This means David and his men are expecting to get paid, but Nabal suddenly chooses not to pay these protectors and keep all the money for himself (1 Sam 25: 6-8,11).
As the leader, David is spiritually, emotionally, and physically spent and “hangry.” Thus, David reaches the proverbial “last straw.” He and his men want to annihilate Nabal and destroy all that is his, but David has failed to see his greatest enemy is not flesh and blood. God sends Abigail—a humble woman of discernment—to reason with David and urge him not to take vengeance into his own hands (Ro. 12:19). David must act like the anointed one God will one day position as king.
When our flesh is in control, we are not wise nor are we anointed by God’s Spirit. We must refrain from irrational statements or actions and recognize the enemy is seeking to get us to destroy our testimony of trust in God. We cannot retract the words or actions we have released in unhindered anger. The Spirit of God will help us de-escalate the situation in our minds, before we speak or act. The Helper is the Spirit of discernment, wisdom, and truth.
This fallen world is not fair, but God is good and, in time, he will take vengeance on those who mistreat his children. May we choose to operate in the spirit of Abigail and be a de-escalating vessel when others face that “last straw.” Or, may we approach things like David, who listens and responds to a voice that reminds us we serve the Lord of heaven’s army and some battles will be won by God alone.
1 Samuel 25:23-35 NLT Abigail Intercedes for Nabal
23 When Abigail saw David, she quickly got off her donkey and bowed low before him. 24 She fell at his feet and said, “I accept all blame in this matter, my lord. Please listen to what I have to say. 25 I know Nabal is a wicked and ill-tempered man; please don’t pay any attention to him. He is a fool, just as his name suggests [name means “fool”]. But I never even saw the young men you sent.
26 “Now, my lord, as surely as the Lord lives and you yourself live, since the Lord has kept you from murdering and taking vengeance into your own hands, let all your enemies and those who try to harm you be as cursed as Nabal is. 27 And here is a present that I, your servant, have brought to you and your young men. 28 Please forgive me if I have offended you in any way. The Lord will surely reward you with a lasting dynasty, for you are fighting the Lord’s battles. And you have not done wrong throughout your entire life.
29 “Even when you are chased by those who seek to kill you, your life is safe in the care of the Lord your God, secure in his treasure pouch! But the lives of your enemies will disappear like stones shot from a sling! 30 When the Lord has done all he promised and has made you leader of Israel, 31 don’t let this be a blemish on your record. Then your conscience won’t have to bear the staggering burden of needless bloodshed and vengeance. And when the Lord has done these great things for you, please remember me, your servant!”
32 David replied to Abigail, “Praise the Lord, the God of Israel, who has sent you to meet me today! 33 Thank God for your good sense! Bless you for keeping me from murder and from carrying out vengeance with my own hands. 34 For I swear by the Lord, the God of Israel, who has kept me from hurting you, that if you had not hurried out to meet me, not one of Nabal’s men would still be alive tomorrow morning.” 35 Then David accepted her present and told her, “Return home in peace. I have heard what you said. We will not kill your husband.”
Prayer: Lord, please help us share in the motive of Abigail who took action to de-escalate a bad situation and protect David’s testimony. We live in a very reactionary world where many people do not listen nor pause to seek Wisdom. Father, thank you for always making a way of escape for your children. Thank you, Jesus, for being wisdom for us. Holy Spirit, help us remember this Truth as we move through our day. In Jesus’ name. Amen.